Why do we hate ourselves? Every single day, we look in the mirror and criticise bits and pieces of our body, viciously tearing it apart. Why? Isn’t the media already doing a good enough job of that?
‘Are you going to eat another slice of cake?’ ‘Shouldn’t you exercise a bit more? You look like you’ve gained weight!’ ‘I hate him, he can eat whatever he wants and doesn’t gain any weight!’ ‘Oh my god! You’re too skinny! Please eat something!’
Why do we think that we have the right to say these things to people? Especially online. It’s so damaging to their self esteem!
If you ask a 4 year old boy or girl what they think about their appearance, they’ll probably say they look like a Unicorn! It’s moments in our pre-pubescent/teen years that stay with us forever. Most of our insecurities stem from someones comments about our body, or incidents that made us feel bad about ourselves.
Then why inflict the same pain we have all experienced, onto someone else?
We see images of supermodels and celebrities with the ‘perfect body’. But what is the perfect body?
I suppose it would be Kim Kardashian for someone, and Jun Ji Hyun for someone else. It’s subjective. They are both beautiful!
I honestly believe that if you don’t like the way that you look, your style or your weight; you have every right to try to change it for your own happiness.
Note: your OWN happiness. You should never try to change for someone else’s approval of you!
Kuma and I have been on a health streak for a while now, and are much healthier, and fitter because of it. We did it because we wanted a change for ourselves, and it was an extremely positive journey!
If you try to change yourself for something or someone other than yourself, you won’t enjoy the process, and you won’t learn and grow.
I’ve always hated being taller than most people, and on the other end, Kuma has always hated being shorter than most. But it’s our differences and uniqueness that makes us who we are.
BubzBeauty, my favourite YouTuber was very wise in saying that a Cheese-grater was designed to grate cheese, and an Apple-slicer was designed to slice apples. The Cheese-grater and Apple-slicer can be jealous of each other all they want, but at the end of the day, they were designed differently to do different things!
And similarly, we are all different people with different skills, and we are all meant to do different things. Okay, I don’t look like Scarlett Johansson.. So what? I’m a loyal friend, with a big heart. I make people laugh and I’m passionate about what I do!
Kuma is never going to be as tall as Kendall Jenner, but she has a big personality, a great vision and writes beautifully!
What I’m trying to express, is that all of you are unique and have your own story. We are all meant for something special.
It’s time to stop looking at what other people are doing, complaining and feeling down about ourselves, and take action!
Guys and Girls, beauty will eventually fade and money comes and goes, but true happiness lasts. So, we should do what makes us happy, look however we wish to, and be whatever we want to be!
Our bodies are precious gifts, that our Moms went through 9 months of hell to give to us. Let’s not abuse and pick at them anymore. Let us cherish our bodies, keep them healthy and treat ourselves like the beautiful Unicorns that we are!!